Create your own surrender ritual, which you can give at the end of each day before going to sleep.
If you are burdened by unresolved circumstances, you can ask God to forgive you, ask Him to help you forgive others and to reestablish a figure-eight flow of love between you and those you name.
As part of that ritual, you can ask God to show you the practical steps to take the next day to move toward resolution.
Write those ideas down and try them!